Love is something that I guess everyone wants. The question is, why do we have to hurt to get this love thing? Why, when all that we want is to be loved, we have to hurt others, and push others to get what we want. Love is something I guess that comes in different packages. In relationships, such as dating ones. Then, there are the kinds of love that makes you smile. A sisterhood, of friends that will always be there for you. Your family. That kind of love, is the kind that will never be lost.
To all of my friends, I say thank you. Because, you are always there for me, and I love you guys. I hope that you guys get treated like the best like i know you are. You have kept me sane, when I wanted to go crazy. You are always there for me. I love you guys, and if anyone tries to make you cry, I'd make you cry. I dedicate this one to you. You know who you are.
Monday, January 31, 2011
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Okayyyy. Really now.
Why does society always say that a woman has to be with a man in order to be happy? I don't understand how that works, when there is a billion other reasons to be happy. Friends, family, cupcakes, snoopy. I mean come on. In order to be successful, one has to be paired off with someone else. I don't get the point of that.
Sure, being in a relationship is fun stuff. You have someone to share memories with, someone to keep you company, and someone to have really long conversations with that actually mean something. Yes, I'm sure that you and I have that innermost desire to be together with someone. But what I don't understand, is that everyone says that the key of being successful is to being in a successful relationship, or to be married with children. And what about those who haven't found someone that they would want to be in a relationship with, they get thrown with insults, and those cheesy, "ohh your much too pretty for them guys anyway" kind of speech.
Well, I say the single ones are the best ones, because they are indepandant, they don't need anybody for anything. They are self-sufficent, and can do on their own, with or without someone by their side. A single woman has her own job, place to live, and relies soley on herself. Sure, there are times when she wishes to have someone that will always be there for her to talk to, but then she has friends that can always be there for her. ( I hope, anyways. Kind of like a sex and the city kind of thing), and if she ever needs anything, she can always get help, as an independant woman.
Marriage is like society's way of saying, "hey, you're successful in life! forget about the job, and the college degree, you're in a relationship!" My question is why? I think it should be a part of the plate of success, just not the whole thing. After all, marriage is not the only thing that goes on in our life. We have a job, and an education, and friends also to factor. No offense to the married girls that are out there, or the ones that are in a relationship, but that other person is not your whole life..
Sure, being in a relationship is fun stuff. You have someone to share memories with, someone to keep you company, and someone to have really long conversations with that actually mean something. Yes, I'm sure that you and I have that innermost desire to be together with someone. But what I don't understand, is that everyone says that the key of being successful is to being in a successful relationship, or to be married with children. And what about those who haven't found someone that they would want to be in a relationship with, they get thrown with insults, and those cheesy, "ohh your much too pretty for them guys anyway" kind of speech.
Well, I say the single ones are the best ones, because they are indepandant, they don't need anybody for anything. They are self-sufficent, and can do on their own, with or without someone by their side. A single woman has her own job, place to live, and relies soley on herself. Sure, there are times when she wishes to have someone that will always be there for her to talk to, but then she has friends that can always be there for her. ( I hope, anyways. Kind of like a sex and the city kind of thing), and if she ever needs anything, she can always get help, as an independant woman.
Marriage is like society's way of saying, "hey, you're successful in life! forget about the job, and the college degree, you're in a relationship!" My question is why? I think it should be a part of the plate of success, just not the whole thing. After all, marriage is not the only thing that goes on in our life. We have a job, and an education, and friends also to factor. No offense to the married girls that are out there, or the ones that are in a relationship, but that other person is not your whole life..
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Okay, enough
Hey girl, enough already. I mean, you need to learn how to keep it classy. Everything is about how you use people, and how you think everyone likes you, and wants to date you. You go around flirting with a guy that your friend's interested in, and for what? The attention? I'm sorry honey, but he doesn't like you. Nor does he like her, most likely. Isn't the female code important to anyone nowadays?
Girls, if your friend likes someone, then you lay off. It's the code of all girls. Learn it, live it.
If you want to be in a relationship with someone, then do it for the right reasons. Not for the stuff that they give you, but for the heart. Love is the singlemost, greatest, and most complicated emotions ever created by man. Money is not needed in that
Girls, if your friend likes someone, then you lay off. It's the code of all girls. Learn it, live it.
If you want to be in a relationship with someone, then do it for the right reasons. Not for the stuff that they give you, but for the heart. Love is the singlemost, greatest, and most complicated emotions ever created by man. Money is not needed in that
Monday, January 3, 2011
Confusing Thoughts...
Today, a friend came to me with a probelm. A guy that was interested in her, whom she was not interested in, was telling her how much he loved her, and without her, he would kill himself. But, my friend said that she, being not interested in the guy, felt confused and didn't know what to do.
I then thought, at first, why would someone take their own life, because they have so much going for them, especially in high school. Why would someone feel that need, that without one person in their life, they can not go on living? Is it that need normal? Or is it true love? Or do they think it's love? Can teenagers truely fall in love?
Maybe it isn't normal. I feel like that if someone wanted me that way, I would be instantly calling a conselor or some trusted authority figure, who can help you. I mean, if someone wanted me that bad, they were obsessed with me, right? If they can not seek happiness outside your relationship, maybe then they, themselves are not healthy. Maybe then they should get a hobby, make some friends, or doing something besides obessing over the other person, or the person that they want to be their boyfriend/girlfriend...After all, significant others aren't everything in life. It may take time, but in the end, you will be able to move on, into something that is better than that relationship. Sure, it may hurt now, but in the end, you will be able to feel better about yoursel and realized that you lived without that person in your life before, you can do it once again.
After rereading my opinion on that, I realized that I am a bitch. Stone-cold bitch. If I had been the person, versus my friend, I would have been that's nice, but I don't like you, so can you just not go there? I don't know what has gotton into me. I used to believe in love, and it's intensity, like Rose and Jack from the Titanic. Of course, the circumstances were different, but if you were dying, then I would have been "screw you, I'm getting off of this boat''. Is it the love that is truest, the love that means the most to us? Is it the love that means the most, worth the most to be fought for? And how do you know?
I sometimes wonder if I could ever open my heart again, to someone that I am really starting to grow quite fond of. I always have that thought in the back of my mind that if I begin to feel too much, then the impact in the end would get worse and worse...
Maybe if I just open my heart, even just a little, i'd find the answer to these questions. But how, how to get rid of the fear that paralyzes me? After all, I do know the person whom I have feelings for shares no traits compared to the one that hurt me. He is kind, gentle, always there for me when I need someone to talk to, and I actually feel like he listens. I look foreward to seeing his face in the day, because he always knows how to put a smile on his face. I try to be there for him, as well, and hope that he knows that I will listen to him, because like him I actually like to hear what he has to say as well.
Maybe, just maybe, my time is now.
I then thought, at first, why would someone take their own life, because they have so much going for them, especially in high school. Why would someone feel that need, that without one person in their life, they can not go on living? Is it that need normal? Or is it true love? Or do they think it's love? Can teenagers truely fall in love?
Maybe it isn't normal. I feel like that if someone wanted me that way, I would be instantly calling a conselor or some trusted authority figure, who can help you. I mean, if someone wanted me that bad, they were obsessed with me, right? If they can not seek happiness outside your relationship, maybe then they, themselves are not healthy. Maybe then they should get a hobby, make some friends, or doing something besides obessing over the other person, or the person that they want to be their boyfriend/girlfriend...After all, significant others aren't everything in life. It may take time, but in the end, you will be able to move on, into something that is better than that relationship. Sure, it may hurt now, but in the end, you will be able to feel better about yoursel and realized that you lived without that person in your life before, you can do it once again.
After rereading my opinion on that, I realized that I am a bitch. Stone-cold bitch. If I had been the person, versus my friend, I would have been that's nice, but I don't like you, so can you just not go there? I don't know what has gotton into me. I used to believe in love, and it's intensity, like Rose and Jack from the Titanic. Of course, the circumstances were different, but if you were dying, then I would have been "screw you, I'm getting off of this boat''. Is it the love that is truest, the love that means the most to us? Is it the love that means the most, worth the most to be fought for? And how do you know?
I sometimes wonder if I could ever open my heart again, to someone that I am really starting to grow quite fond of. I always have that thought in the back of my mind that if I begin to feel too much, then the impact in the end would get worse and worse...
Maybe if I just open my heart, even just a little, i'd find the answer to these questions. But how, how to get rid of the fear that paralyzes me? After all, I do know the person whom I have feelings for shares no traits compared to the one that hurt me. He is kind, gentle, always there for me when I need someone to talk to, and I actually feel like he listens. I look foreward to seeing his face in the day, because he always knows how to put a smile on his face. I try to be there for him, as well, and hope that he knows that I will listen to him, because like him I actually like to hear what he has to say as well.
Maybe, just maybe, my time is now.
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