Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Love Should Not Hurt.

Like most teenagers, I plan to get married, and fall in love at some point of my life. And with love, there will always be mistakes. We will get hurt, mentally, but love should never hurt physically, by someone that we have interest in dating, or already dating, or even dated, but things did not work out with, and now they are mad at you, and want to make your life miserable. Either way, it is a subject that is very real, and exists every day.
Abusive relationships are something we see in the media. In televison shows, movies such as No One Would Tell, and we hear about it in music. But the thing is, it is not something that it made up, unfortnatly. It is something that is very real, and can happen to anyone.
One person who had once lived this reality is Lindsay Burke. She met her abuser at a wedding. The two dated for a while, and during their relationship, her mother began to notice that her daughter's boyfriend was controlling her. One day, shortly after splitting with her boyfriend, Lindsay went missing. A few days later, they found Lindsay's body, and her murderer was sentenced to a life behind bars. Her mother, AnneMarie Burke, makes it her mission to teach young teens about the dangers of abusive relationships.
How do you know if someone is abusing you? Well, there are signs that make it easy to tell, some a lot more easier to spot then others. The first sign is if someone controls you by saying you dress too slutty. Another sign is that you are moving way too fast, and won't have any space, or time for yourself, to do things without that other person, such as sports, hang out with friends without your significant other, or go a night without "checking in" with that other person. Another sign that is a lot more easier to spot is when they yell at you, and hit you, which I hope is a red flag to those involved, aka those involved. Other signs include being called mean and vulgar names, and being blamed for his or hers probelms in life, probelms that do not invlove the other person. Abusive relationships are very dangerous, and could end very badly, like in Lindsay's case. The best thing to do is to tell someone, so that you can get help, and get out of it. You being there will not change him. It will only make it worse. Do what's best for you, and follow your gut. If any of the signs mentioned seems familar, please contact a friend, or a help center. Do not put yourself into a dangerous situation.
For more information on Lindsay Burke, go to this website- http://www.lindsayannburke.com/

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Okay, Really Society.

So, today I turn on the T.V, and I flick onto MTV to see what's on. Teen Mom. So, wondering what is the hype about the show, I watch it.
After watching it, I must say that it is scary that people my age, juniors in high school, who are thinking about colledge and starting out in life, are already mothers. It scares me, and it grosses me out. Why are people my age, whose bodies are stull changing, going through the process of having a children, and going on the journey of motherhood. And more importantly, they have a show about it? What does that show to other girls? Does it promote teen pregnancy?
Do you remember the time that girls would go on a vacation for nine months if they got pregnant before they got married. Their parents were ashamed of them, and usually put the child up for adoption? How did society change from that to reality shows about it?
What also gets me, is that some of the girls usually do it alone, without the help of a father, aka their partner. And it makes me mad, because their DNA runs through their veins, and they were game for intercourse, but now that they have a child involved they run like the wind. And then they are ignored, by others. "Boys will be boys" they will say. But these boys are having sex. They are no longer boys. They are men. Society advertises sex as something causual, that doesn't mean anything. But really, it does. It creates life.
I think, that if you can't do the time, don't do the crime. Abstince. Your 16, my friend. You have the rest of your life to do those things, and to have a baby.