Throughout your life, you will make friends (well, i hope that you do). Some will stay in your life for a while, and you will become close. Others will do scratch the surface, and then leave. But the truest friends, are like purses..the real ones will always last longer.
To me, friendship is something that's worth while. To be a friend means to stop making it all about you. Stop getting mad that your friend wants some space when her grandmother dies, and taking it personally. Stop flirting with the guy that your friend likes, just because you want the spotlight on you. Stop taking out all of your frustrations out on your friend, only to the next day to be nice again. Also, realize that if you do act bipolar, I'm not going to play along with your game. It's not all about "poor you, poor you", because after a while, I really don't want to hear about why you mad, when that's all you talk about. It's your fault that he was scared away, now move on.
True friends, in my opinon, are a give or take kind of relationship. They care about you, you care about them. When something bad happens, then you will be there for them. And when something bad happens to your friends, than you will be there for them. Always make an effort to show someone that you care about them, and their probelms. Help them, when they need it. When they have a boyfriend, and all they do is want to talk about said boyfriend, you hear them talk about it. And when the boyfriend breaks up with your friend, you are the shoulder that your friend cries on, armed with ice cream tubs, and ready to kill that boyfriend. You don't fight for their attention when they are with their boyfriend, you are the center of attention, because she keeps you in sync with everyone. You never feel like the third wheel, and you know that your friend has your back.
In life, friends will leave you. But, it is good to know that the ones that matter the most, will always have your back, always be there for you to listen to your lame stories, always there to get your crush's number, always be there whenever your sad, and will beat up the loser that breaks your heart. They are the therapists that never want to get paid. To all of my true friends out there, I love you guys. Thank you for being there for the ups and downs in this crazy rollercoaster that we call life. I dedicate this blog entry to all of you guys. You know who you are.
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Friday, February 18, 2011
He said, She Said.
In the world of dating, there is a lot of gambling. Gambling, meaning, should I risk my dignity, and ask her out? Or should I just play it safe, and admire from afar so that way, I would have nothing to lose. It's always easier playing it safe.
Or, as many people in high school do it, you consult your friends. You ask them for advice, and they give their opinion. And you follow it, whether it's making them find out whether or not someone likes you, or getting their number for you, or them telling you you're wasting your time on someone that they think that likes you.
This week, I've found myself in the middle of this whole he/she said mess. A friend was too shy to ask the girl that he likes that he likes her. So, I managed to get her number for him. I then managed to figure out if the girl liked him.
The point of that paragraph was that it got me thinking. Why is love a he/she said kind of game? Shouldn't it be a game of chance, and taking a risk, hoping for some dumb luck? If it becomes the entire school's business, than what is the chance?
Maybe you are shielding yourself from getting hurt. And if that's the case, then take down your damn sheild and just take that risk you've been meaning to take.
Or, as many people in high school do it, you consult your friends. You ask them for advice, and they give their opinion. And you follow it, whether it's making them find out whether or not someone likes you, or getting their number for you, or them telling you you're wasting your time on someone that they think that likes you.
This week, I've found myself in the middle of this whole he/she said mess. A friend was too shy to ask the girl that he likes that he likes her. So, I managed to get her number for him. I then managed to figure out if the girl liked him.
The point of that paragraph was that it got me thinking. Why is love a he/she said kind of game? Shouldn't it be a game of chance, and taking a risk, hoping for some dumb luck? If it becomes the entire school's business, than what is the chance?
Maybe you are shielding yourself from getting hurt. And if that's the case, then take down your damn sheild and just take that risk you've been meaning to take.
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Thoughts...(bunch of things that really don't make sense)
Have you ever met someone in your life that in the instant that you met them, you knew that they would mean something to you? Like one day, you are living your life, everything is all normal, and than you met this person and everything has all of a sudden changed.
I have felt that only once in my life, a few months ago, to be exact. I just met this kid, and within a few moments I knew I liked him (or a have a crush on him, if you would).
My question is, in that exact moment of time when you realize that you just know this person is going to mean a lot to you, where exactly do you go from there? Do you tell him how you feel? Do you wait for him to tell you how he feels? And, does the fact that you just knew you liked him when you met him mean anything, or is it a stupid cliche?
Man, these things are wierd.
I have felt that only once in my life, a few months ago, to be exact. I just met this kid, and within a few moments I knew I liked him (or a have a crush on him, if you would).
My question is, in that exact moment of time when you realize that you just know this person is going to mean a lot to you, where exactly do you go from there? Do you tell him how you feel? Do you wait for him to tell you how he feels? And, does the fact that you just knew you liked him when you met him mean anything, or is it a stupid cliche?
Man, these things are wierd.
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
When we forgive, do we always forget?
At one point or another, someone has done something wrong to hurt you in some sort of way. Whether it's intentional or not, we get hurt, and they apologize. But, the age old question is, if we decide to forgive them for their wrong doing, do we always forget what they did, or hold some kind of wall up against them, so that they can no longer hurt us in any shape or form.
Holding walls against someone who hurt you can do many things. First of all, if you block yourself off and away from that person, than you are blocking yourself away from getting hurt again by them, making a wall of some sort so that way you can never feel the pain that they have done to you again.
But what if they truely act like they are sorry for what they have done? What if deep down inside, they really mean it? What if after many second chances, or even third chances, you just want to say, "screw you, I don't need you around to hurt me, and make feel random emotions that don't make sense."
Unfortunaly, these are decesions, us the victims have to make, on whether or not that person deserves that second chance, or even that forteenth chance. But, even if we do forgive them, will we ever forget the hurt that they have caused us in the past? Can we ever truely start over with a clean slate, after one has hurt the other one too many times?
Holding walls against someone who hurt you can do many things. First of all, if you block yourself off and away from that person, than you are blocking yourself away from getting hurt again by them, making a wall of some sort so that way you can never feel the pain that they have done to you again.
But what if they truely act like they are sorry for what they have done? What if deep down inside, they really mean it? What if after many second chances, or even third chances, you just want to say, "screw you, I don't need you around to hurt me, and make feel random emotions that don't make sense."
Unfortunaly, these are decesions, us the victims have to make, on whether or not that person deserves that second chance, or even that forteenth chance. But, even if we do forgive them, will we ever forget the hurt that they have caused us in the past? Can we ever truely start over with a clean slate, after one has hurt the other one too many times?
Monday, February 14, 2011
Valentine's Day....What does it all mean?
Valentine's day has different meaning to various people. For some, it's kill me, i don't have a Valentine. For others it's a chance to express your love and affection for each other...yadda yadda yadda.
Valentine's day is a day to tell someone that you love them. But my question is, why do you have to have your love measured by some sort of gift or candy? Isn't love only measured by what's in the heart?
To all you single ladies out there without no valentines, I guess that you must feel the lowest of the low. But, your not, just because you don't have a boyfriend. You deserve the best, and just because you don't have a mate, doesn't mean your not special. You are loved, by someone. Or someones. Friends, family, etc. Point is, someone loves you.
And to all of the couples out there, use protection.
Valentine's day is a day to tell someone that you love them. But my question is, why do you have to have your love measured by some sort of gift or candy? Isn't love only measured by what's in the heart?
To all you single ladies out there without no valentines, I guess that you must feel the lowest of the low. But, your not, just because you don't have a boyfriend. You deserve the best, and just because you don't have a mate, doesn't mean your not special. You are loved, by someone. Or someones. Friends, family, etc. Point is, someone loves you.
And to all of the couples out there, use protection.
Sunday, February 13, 2011
Body Lanuage-What it is, and How to Decode It
Sometimes, there is a time when words aren't enough, and what is between the lines actually means more than what is actually said, especially when it comes to the opposite sex, and the dating game. Does she/he like me? Have no fear. Here is a body language dictionary, to help end all of this confusion that you may have.
Body Language/Signs Of A Guy That Likes You:
1. He looks at you a lot.
2. If he provides you with a lot of extra attention, that means he likes you.
3. He asks you about your love life.
4.His pupils dilate when talking to you.
5. If he's fixing his hair, clothing, etc, he's preening. It's a sign that can be traced back from the wild, a sign that he likes you.
6. He holds steady eye contact- a sign that he is interested.
7. How's his position when he's talking to you? If his body is pointing towards you, then it's a clear sign that he's interested.
8. He smiles at you often.
9. He leans in, while talking to you, a sign that he wants to be close with you.
10. Do your friends say that a boy asks about you? It's a sign that he's interested, but is to shy to let you know that.
11. Does he make a special effort to do things for you, that he wouldn't do for others? That's a sign that he wants to get to know your life.
12. He actually listens to whatever you have to say.
When A Guy is not Interested he Will:
1. He will talk about himself, in order to keep from getting to know you. He will invite others in the conversation, and let his eyes wander.
2. If he isn't interested, than he will be cordial, but detached, if he's not a nice guy. If he's not much of a nice guy (then why would you like him in the first place?) he would just flat out ignore you.
3. You iniate, and he doesn't follow through.
4. He is always "too busy"- a sign that he's probably not interested.
Hope this helps all of you lovebirds out, in preperation for tomarrow. Happy day before Valentine's Day Everyone!
Body Language/Signs Of A Guy That Likes You:
1. He looks at you a lot.
2. If he provides you with a lot of extra attention, that means he likes you.
3. He asks you about your love life.
4.His pupils dilate when talking to you.
5. If he's fixing his hair, clothing, etc, he's preening. It's a sign that can be traced back from the wild, a sign that he likes you.
6. He holds steady eye contact- a sign that he is interested.
7. How's his position when he's talking to you? If his body is pointing towards you, then it's a clear sign that he's interested.
8. He smiles at you often.
9. He leans in, while talking to you, a sign that he wants to be close with you.
10. Do your friends say that a boy asks about you? It's a sign that he's interested, but is to shy to let you know that.
11. Does he make a special effort to do things for you, that he wouldn't do for others? That's a sign that he wants to get to know your life.
12. He actually listens to whatever you have to say.
When A Guy is not Interested he Will:
1. He will talk about himself, in order to keep from getting to know you. He will invite others in the conversation, and let his eyes wander.
2. If he isn't interested, than he will be cordial, but detached, if he's not a nice guy. If he's not much of a nice guy (then why would you like him in the first place?) he would just flat out ignore you.
3. You iniate, and he doesn't follow through.
4. He is always "too busy"- a sign that he's probably not interested.
Hope this helps all of you lovebirds out, in preperation for tomarrow. Happy day before Valentine's Day Everyone!
Saturday, February 12, 2011
First love.
Do you remeber your first crush? The first guy or girl, whatever floats your boat that you ever admired from afar? The butterflys that enter your stomach? The nerves that you got whenever you were within twenty feet of them, and didn't know what to say?
Do you also remember the first heartbreak? The first time that you felt like you couldn't go on. But you did. And in the end, you will repeat the cycle, although you are more cautious.
In the end, you get too caustious, because of that first love, and you've got to end it permantly. Go back to feeling like you don't know what you're doing. It's better for you, and your health.
Do you also remember the first heartbreak? The first time that you felt like you couldn't go on. But you did. And in the end, you will repeat the cycle, although you are more cautious.
In the end, you get too caustious, because of that first love, and you've got to end it permantly. Go back to feeling like you don't know what you're doing. It's better for you, and your health.
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