Control?

Okay, so you all hear all of the things about the boyfriends controlling their girlfriends...but what about the girlfriends controlling their boyfriends? I mean if a guy controls a girl, then thats wrong, but what if a girl controls a guy? Like seriously if a girl pulls some of the things that guys pull with girls, is it okay?
I don't think it's okay. You're in a relationship right? You should love and respect the other person. You shouldn't tell them what to do. You shouldn't have to hold their phone for them while you're with them. They shouldn't have to pay for everything. They should be able to wear whatever they want, not what you want. They should have friends that are the opposite sex, no they should have as many friends as they desire, and you should be cool with it.
I think what relationships lack is trust. But if you can't trust someone, why are you with them? If you have trust issues, you should let the other person in, versus yelling at them and making them feel small. They don't deserve you being their mother, they don't deserve you yelling at them. Everyone whose in a relationship deserves a little bit of trust, and it goes a long way. Trust is what makes relationships work, and trust is what makes the world go around. If we trust each other, than we wouldn't have less probelms. But, if we do something that makes the trust break, then maybe we should talk about it with that person? Just saying.
Love is partially trust. Don't control someone just because you don't trust them. Maybe you shouldn't be with them.