Ever have this huge crush on someone that whenever you were around them, you had no idea what to say to them? So either you don't, or you say something that doesn't make any sense.
Being a matchmaker, (well trying to be) I've noticed that whenever I put someone that like someone else, it's usually the most awkward thing that I've ever had to experiance. Usually, you can probably hear crickets somewhere in the background, or something along those lines. The person is too nervous to say anything, mainly to avoid screwing up, or not to say something stupid. So they don't.
First of all, why do we think that we have to reach this degree of coolness when it comes to dating, and the members of the opposite sex, when really all we need to be is ourselves? Why do we overthink every single move that we make when we are around them? My guess is that we have to worry too much, because if we let our guard down, they could see the true us, and then run.
Second of all, why do we think that if they knew about the real us, they wouldn't like us? Why do we feel the constant need to impress them, when by just being ourselves, we can impress them? Maybe we're too scared to mess it up, because they are the best thing that has ever happened to us? Or that they are way out of our league?
I wonder what would happen if we stopped overthinking everything that happened, if we just were whoever the hell we were, and that was that. No games, just living, just existing, just breathing. Why do we as human beings have to be so damn complicated?
My advice to all of the people out there who have a crush on someone is to stop overthinking about it. If you overthink it, because you feel the need to impress someone, then you are bound to mess up. Just be yourself, and the rest will fall into place.
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