Yesterday, a friend wanted to write a love letter to his girlfriend. Okay, so the friend was Chris, but that's not the point. Basically, he didn't know what to say, writer's block if you will. So, it got me thinking about the pressure to be perfect, especially when relating to love and the worries that one has when they really like or someone that they date. (Well, I'd hope they would like someone in order to date them. Of course the whole arranged marriage thing comes into mind) We feel pressured to be this perfect soul, a robot, a person who we are not, just to please them, to be the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend.
I think love is like humans, not perfect. In our minds, it is. But there is no perfect circles, there is no perfect love. Everyone and everything has its flaws. So, why do we always strive to be perfect? Can't we just be human, the way that everything was meant to be? The person of interest is human as well, the person of interest make mistakes. So, why do you feel the pressure to be afraid to screw up? Why do you feel the pressure to do something outstanding, just to show that you are the perfect match for them? To show that you care about them, and that you are not a bad person.
I always hated perfectionists. They always annoyed me, because I never was perfect, and colored in the lines.
I guess the advice that I could give someone writing a love letter, or a love poem, or bascially anything love related, is that say what's in your heart. It's real. It's there, existing. Saying what you're feeling, versus saying what you're not feeling, and you feel you should be feeling, is something completly different. Saying what you feel is real. Saying what you think you should feel is fake.
Personally, I think fake people are annoying. Just saying.
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